Hobbies – Three things outside of PUA that can help you to Pick Up
by Nick Hoss
You want to have a lifestyle you can bring a woman into before you start going out to meet her.
Many guys get caught up in the initial stages of learning how to open, transition, attraction, etc., but you can’t forget lifestyle.
A good lifestyle will make pick up easier because your stories are better, your boundaries are set more natural, and you have more going on than girls.
Here are three things you can do outside the bar to aid your development.
Be Social and Go Out at least twice per week
No, this does not mean go out and pick up two times weekly. That’s on top of this. You should be hanging out with friends, going places and doing things. Sitting and playing WoW is not social interaction, that’s sitting at a computer playing virtual world.
Get together with the boys, drink some beers, go to a concert, watch a game, pick wild flowers, it doesn’t matter. Just get out of your house more often. You always have opportunities to meet more people and do more things. By talking to more people you’ll become a naturally more cool guy.
The hidden part is that you’ll learn to read different types of people and get comfortable in a wider range of situations. Ultimately, you’ll gain more core confidence in the long run.
Get a New Hobby
Find something new you can learn. The man who is constantly expanding his world is attractive.
Also, “the universally interested man is universally interesting.” Many of my clients don’t have stories to tell women because they aren’t doing anything they are passionate about. No passion, no events, no stories.
It doesn’t even have to be epic. I took an investing class and spent a couple of months learning how to use Excel for financial functions. It fascinated me because I knew my new skills could be applied to bigger things. I’d then relate those bigger things to the skills and tell women about it. Ta-da, I look like a passionate guy with drive, ambitions and plans.
Find one thing you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t. Or better yet, look for something you’ve never considered. You’ll add a whole new dimension to your identity.
Take an Improv Class
Damn near every instructor in our company has taken an improv (as in improvisation) class in his life.
These classes do two big things. First, they force you out of your comfort zone. You will look like and idiot and so will everybody else. It’s super fun, trust me. The act of doing this over and over again will lower you self-conciousness. Secondly, you learn to think on your feet, or how to improvise. It’s tough to run out of things to say when you know how to whip stuff up on the spot. It will really increase your conversational fluency.
I’ve probably put more money into improv teachers pockets across the continent than my own by recommending students try it! (And it doubles as a hobby.) Do a search and a local theatre group or school should have them.