Questions with Nick Hoss – Q & A Tuesday
by Nick Hoss
Here are some blunt answers to quick questions I get asked the most.
[quote]Is this your full-time job?[/quote]
Absolutely. I have a couple of side projects/businesses but this is what I do.
[quote]Does you family know about your job?[/quote]
Yes. It’s not exactly something you can hide, nor something I feel the need to hide.
[quote]Do you night game or just day game?[/quote]
Both. I like to have fun on the town with my friends and love night game for that reason. I spend most of my weekends teaching day game, so that is when I do it. Nowadays, my day game is mostly if I’m grabbing a coffee or buying groceries. It’s engrained.
I don’t treat this stuff as a “game” where I wear a fuzzy hat and keep score. I hate that shit supremely and if it wasn’t for SEO purposes I’d never mention the words pick up artist.
I just party or buy groceries and girls just kind of enter the picture.
[quote]How long have you been doing this?[/quote]
Learning, almost four years. Teaching, almost two years.
[quote]Who are some of your influences?[/quote]
LS guys–Braddock, Cajun, Dahunter, Soul, Tenmagnet, (and a little Venture and Vercetti nowadays)
Outside LS–Tyler Durden, Sinn, (old) Vin Dicarlo, Natural Tim, Ratisse and a couple other guys you’ve probably never heard of. Oh ya, David D to start with of course.
Outside PU–David Deida
I picked one method (Love Systems) and stuck to it for the first six months before I even explored other methods so I wasn’t conflicting advice/opinions. Build a foundation first. Not all advice is created equal.
(Check out my PUA Reading List to see exactly what I followed when learning.)
[quote]Describe Your Style[/quote]
I like to open with spontaneous, situational openers if I can because it’s very low-key. If not, I’ll go direct. I usually try a role play or tease to spike buying temperature and then I’m into qualification and comfort. If I get some of those going, it’s game over. A lot of my personality is conveyed through storytelling and just knowing my purpose, but I’ve worked hard to live a supremely diverse life. I try to convey a lot of passion, purpose and understanding of the girl. When it hits, it hits very hard. When it doesn’t, I next the girl quickly.
My style used to involve a lot of PUA date stuff, but now I just gauge by the girl. I usually just meet up with girls if we’re both out.
[quote]Do you use routines? Natural game?[/quote]
I use what works. I definitely don’t use scripted stuff, but I do know where I’m leading the conversation. I like the idea of self-amusement within social boundaries, not doing things for attention to show you don’t care what people think. I keep a mental picture of what the coolest guys in the room would do.
[quote]You’re tall. It must be easy for you?[/quote]
It certainly doesn’t hurt, but it sure didn’t help before I learned this stuff. It’s one less reason to get blown out; you still have to put in the work though.
[quote]How much money do you make?[/quote]
More than any job my English degree would get me. Less than what will keep me doing it full-time forever. A lot of what I make goes to expenses of travel, seminar rooms, etc. It’s more a self-proprietorship than a job.
[quote]Where is your favorite place to meet girls?[/quote]
New York. There could be zero girls there and I’d be happy. I also really like Texas girls.
[quote]Which city has the best girls?[/quote]
Here’s my list:
Hottest Girls: L.A.
Best for SNLs: Stockholm
Best Day Game: N.Y.C.
[quote]Which city is the worst?[/quote]
It’s a tough one between London and San Francisco. London is a very cool city, but the girls aren’t that pretty and they’re bland to talk to. SF girls aren’t my flavor but they can be some of the most interesting.
[quote]I just took a bootcamp. What should I do now?[/quote]
What kind of results do you want? If you just want a girlfriend or to feel like you have control over your dating life, go out and talk to girls every weekend for six weeks, then at least six times per month for two months. Commit yourself to change, get what you need, get out.
If you want to be a PUA Superstar, go out five days/nights per week for three to six months, give up any form of free time and social life, then rebuild it from the ground up, still going out every weekend for a few years.
[quote]What’s the advantage of taking a bootcamp when I can just read some stuff on the Internet?[/quote]
A bootcamp cuts the learning curve greatly and sets you on the right path (if you have the right instructor/company). Instead of paying for a year’s worth of bar tabs learning through trial and error and all of the bad advice out there, you just get a big jumpstart and save yourself a lot of agony.
The very best I’ve met and the fastest learners have all taken bootcamps. Invest in success and you’ll get dividends.
[quote]How much does a 1 on 1 cost?[/quote]
[quote]When will you be coming to [my city]?[/quote]
I’ll serve guys anywhere if my schedule allows. Send me an e-mail if you’d like me to come to your city. (I ended up going to South Africa because somebody mentioned me in a tweet and it turned into a bigger idea.)
If you have any more questions, post them in the comments section.